Why would you date that person?

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Why would you date someone if you don’t have any plans on marrying that person?

What?! To forget the person who broke your heart? For fun? Or just for the sake of having a boyfriend/girlfriend? Well, if your answer either lies on the choices or not stated there that’s opposite to marriage, then you’re just making yourself like a fool. Why did I say that? Because it’s simply a waste of time.

You might think that I’m too harsh for saying that. Or I don’t have any rights to do so but that is myopinion. I just want to express how I feel about this matter so please don’t blame me if I’m against dating without serious intentions.

Being in a relationship is not a joke. It requires two persons who are committed to one another. Relationship is not about fame. It’s not about the status. It’s not about running out of time. Nor for using someone to seal the holes of your broken heart. And most importantly, it’s not for fun!

Relationship is about commitments. It has to work for good, and by for good, I mean forever. Even if forever isn’t believable for some, still you have to believe. It requires marriage because it’s the best way to put God at the center of your relationship. When God is there, everything will seem perfect. So why would you marry your partner? Marry that person because you love him/her. Marry that person because he/she loves you. Marry a person you feel comfortable contented with. Marry that person because he/she is worthy of your lifetime commitment.

Relationship is about love. It’s about the story of two persons that give each other butterflies in their stomachs every time they meet like their first time. It’s about accepting what the other party have or doesn’t have. It’s about a couple who are willing to commit in each other’s arms ’til their last breaths.

In today’s generation, uso na ang lokohan. Walang seryosohan. I am not saying that all relationships are like that but I’m sure, most of the people, especially the teens today, are in a relationship that has no good intentions. And at the end of the day, they leave their hearts crying a thousand jar of tears.

Relationships should last. That’s how serious it is.

You’re the One I Need

They say, when a man really loves you, he will show it and try hard to prove it to you. I’m right. I feel right with him.

Love, love, love. One word but full of meanings. Four letters but a million feelings.

What more can I ask if the one I love gives all the things I never wished and beyond the things I asked for? It feels so perfect when you’re floating in the air, surrounded by soft fluffy clouds and wishing time will stop when he’s around.

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He’s been my Sun when I’m covered in Rain.

He’s my light when I’m lost in the dark.

I know there’s no such thing as perfect relationship, but with him,

I’m sure I can feel the perfectness in this world.

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To be honest, I don’t want people to give me flowers and chocolates during Valentine’s Day, well, in any occasions rather. I’ve been this kind of person since high school. I think it’s a bit cliché when a girl is holding a bouquet of flowers and chocolates. I can’t imagine myself walking along our University holding a bouquet (well, okay fine, I’ve imagined it once or twice before hahaha). Yes it’s sweet and romantic, but I find it awkward, seriously. I’d rather have a one-stem tulip than a bouquet.

When we’re talking about the people he saw on his way home, holding a bunch of bouquets, I just laughed and told him LOL. So mainstream. And he answered I know right? I just added if you’re planning to give me a bouquet and chocolates, don’t you dare do it on the next Valentine’s. And he just answered okay, next Valentine’s. Little did I know, there’s something going on.

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He surprised me. I thought we’re not going to see each other this Valentine’s Day but here he was, waiting outside our gate, holding a bouquet and chocolates. What did I do? You wouldn’t believe me if I tell you I didn’t open the gate immediately. When I saw him, I was so starstruck. I didn’t know what to do. And of course I laughed. Remembering our conversation before about the flowers. He, too, laughed at it. Hahaha

Remember the time when we saw a guy on the train holding a bouquet and you asked me if I could do that? I just want to prove to you that I can bring a bouquet in public and travel far to give it to you.

That’s one of the sweetest things I heard from him but babe, you don’t have to do that. You don’t have to prove anything because I can feel that you’re sincere. Like what the song says, you will always be the exception. You’re the one I need, not the the things you can give.

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But my perceptions on bouquets and chocolates changed. It feels good when someone special gives you those things. Nothing can replace the happiness you feel when you’re in love and very much thankful.

My Love

Everything you do is the most perfect thing that has ever been done

Each day with you becomes perfectly done

The warmth of your love could protect me from the harshest winter

Even the sweet kisses you give makes me ask for another

Your inner light could illuminate the darkest night

You shine so bright more than the starlight

I love you, oh dear

Please don’t leave me for real

 

 

Just a quick post for the Valentine’s Day. Some lines are from Yahoo Mail. Happy Valentine’s Day! Keep on spreading love ♥

Be The Voice. Not The Echo

Someone told me to wait

But I think, I’ve waited long enough. Long enough to shatter my dreams; to break my heart.

I have a lot of questions in my head that I desperately want to answer . Am I good enough? Every time I ask this to my friends, I always get “of course you are!”. I don’t know if they’re saying it because it is true or just because they are my friends. Although it gives me lighter feeling to take me away from my darkest hours, still, a part of me is not convinced. 

Where am I good at? To be honest, this question kills me every now and then because I still don’t know the things I am good at. I’m sure that I can do something but I am not sure if I can do well in those things.

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I’ve been living behind someone’s back. I am tired of being the shadow. I want to be the voice, not the echo. I have a lot of insecurities. Maybe if I can’t get rid of my insecurities, I will be like this in my entire life.

The point of sharing this to you is to let my feelings out; to express what I can’t express to the people I see everyday. If I want to stand out in a crowd, I have to be the best of what I can be. The picture above inspired me to speak out when not heard; to be stronger in times I’m weak; and to stand up when down.

I may not have the greatest achievements today, but in time, I know it will land on my hands. I know that we are all good in different ways. I know that we have our own expertise. And I know that we can be the best among the rest. I will wait until that time comes.

What’s Happiness?

I’d almost believe that I can be happy all by myself. With no one beside me, I thought that I’m gonna be fine. Well, I can still be happy with just myself but I realized that I could be more and completely happy with other people.

To be honest, I wasn’t excited that day. I don’t know why, maybe because I still had that post-traumatic stress disorder (LOL) I had on my debut last December 12, 2012. HahahaDSC04118 2

My boyfriend and I ate at the Holy Cow! and we ordered Country’s Pride Parmesan Chicken and New York Cheese Cake. Boy it’s so good, definitely a must try.

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Lo and behold… my dream cake! *shrieks* when I saw this cake online, I was like OMG I love it! Super! I want it so bad. But the bakeshop is nowhere to found near our place. Gladly, they opened one at SM Megamall and there my hope is. Hahaha. I was really surprised when I saw him in front of our school’s gate holding a green box, that, I know what it is. I even slapped his arm a million times (okay, I know I’m over-reacting haha. Just several times) because of excitement. I can’t even shut up :D though I know I was hesitant to taste it at first because when my Aunt gave us a cake from the same bakeshop, it tastes like… I’ll just leave it for you to guess. Like what they said, do not judge a book by its cover. Still, I gave it a try.He gave it to me that’s why it’s so special and to my surprise (yeah another surprise) it tastes even better.

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1. Beautiful box. When we went to the mall, we passed by a stall full of Hello Kitty products, which means, everything is pink! Hahaha. And then I saw a beautiful box and I said “that box is perfect as a gift already even without something inside”.

2. Notebook. In case you haven’t noticed, I really love to write. Especially when I was little, but now, I don’t see myself writing stuffs even I want to. And he said that if I’m inspired to write something or have ideas that make me want to write, I should put it in that notebook.

3. Our picture. What more should I treasure than this? Enough said.

4. Key chain with my name. It’s kinda odd but the key chain has no story. While he was looking for the bakeshop where my dream cake could be bought, he passed by a stall of key chains that you can personalized and thought of giving me one. He finds it cute.

5. Box of Love quotes. I don’t know what would I feel, happiness or sadness. Why? Because he’s going back to LA, for good. It’s gonna be hard for us because it’s a long distance relationship but even some people don’t believe in LDR, I do. I really do, though it hurts like your heart’s being crushed everyday, as long as there’s love and trust then everything will be fine. He said if he’s in LA already and I miss him so bad, he wants me to read the quotes in the box and imagine that he’s the one saying it.

6. My new instax camera. Like what I’ve said, I wasn’t excited of my birthday. I was not expecting too much. But this is one of the reasons why I am jumping with my ears clapping. Hahaha okay I know it’s too much but that’s how I can express my feelings that time. This is my dream camera, aside from the DSLR of course. I’ve wanted this since I was a kid. And now, I have it on my hands. Thanks to my mom!

7. Headband, ribbon clip, and a sketch of myself. All of these are from my best friend, Ana. It’s so nice and sweet of her to give me these cute stuffs. She really knows what I want. For your information, I really love headbands and ribbons. But what I didn’t expect was the sketch. She showed me her drawings and asked if her drawings looked like the person itself, one of those was her sister and I said “not really” and then I saw this sketch and said “Oh this one looks like more of her” and she said “It’s not her, it’s you!” and I was like “OMG” hahaha. I really felt ashamed of what I said.

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To end this, Here are the pictures taken from my instax camera. My family and my boyfriend ♥

What makes it more special are the people who are willing to spend their time just for you.

Happiness is not about the things we receive from others or the compliments they give us. Happiness is about appreciating every little thing in the world. Those are the little things that we cannot touch but we can hold for a lifetime.

Keep Yourself Motivated

Nothing is impossible; the world itself says “I’m possible!”— Audrey Hepburn

You might think that this is impossible but truth be told, everything’s possible. Seems unbelievable? Well, you just have to believe that things in life can be reachable as long as you’ll never stop trying.

The best way to do it is to do it— Amelia Earhart

No second thoughts. It’s Nike. Just do it.

I don’t want the fear of failure to stop me from doing what I really care about— Emma Watson

Why would you let your fears take over your dreams? Everyone fails. Just so you know, the most successful persons have already been there. They failed many times. But what did they do? Why are they successful? Because they chose to become brave. They stand with their failures and change it to success. I’d like to ask you, what are you living for today? Why do you keep on spending your time for such things? What’s your goal? To live for fear or to live for your dreams?

You don’t have to be perfect to achieve your dreams— Katy Perry

Nothing’s perfect and we can’t change that. The world will never be at our side always. There will always be persons that will oppose to what we believe but it doesn’t mean that we’re not good enough. We’re always good enough for our dreams.

If you believe in yourself, you can make yourself whatever you want to be— Lea Michele

Remember the quote nothing is impossible if you keep on believing? Like what’s stated on the first line of this post, nothing’s impossible. If we know that we can do it even in the most impossible ways, we can, because we’re confident.

The Unexpected Truth

Have you ever felt being treated differently by others?

We live in a world where everybody thinks they are perfect—a world that serves as safe zones for some but a world that seems too harsh for some. Why can’t we just feel the same thought to be equal?

“Once upon a time they were two girls,” I say. “One girl had black skin, one girl had white.”
Mae Mobley looks up at me. She listens.
“Little colored girl say to little white girl, ‘How come your skin be so pale?’ White girl say, ‘I don’t know. How come your skin be so black? What you think that mean?’
“But neither of the little girls knew. So little white girl say, ‘Well, let’s see. You got hair, I got hair.’ “I give Mae Mobley a little tousle on her head.
“Little colored girl say ‘I got a nose, you got a nose.’ “I give her little snout a tweak. She got to reach up and do the same to me.
“Little white girl say, ‘I got toes, you got toes” And I do the little thing with her toes, but she can’t get to mine cause I got my white work shoes on.
“‘So we’re the same. Just a different color’, say that little colored girl. The little white girl she agreed and they were friends. The End”
Baby Girl just look at me. Law, that was a sorry story if I ever heard one. Wasn’t even no plot to it. But Mae Mobley, she smile and say, “Tell it again.”
― Kathryn StockettThe Help

In a world full of selfish men, overpowering, and green-eyed monsters, it is impossible not to deal with discrimination. It is a battle of white versus black. And most of the time, the black men became underdogs. Why?—because white men think that blacks are trash and worthy of the position below. They think that blacks don’t deserve to be above so they always put them on the ground.

I don’t know why discrimination exists in this world. We were born and created by one God. Yes we may differ in color but that doesn’t mean that the color should distinguish our positions in life.

Just like Shade (pronounced as Shady)—a 22 year-old lady from Nigeria.

                “I’m a Nigerian. Discrimination… a lot…” She said when I asked her if she already experienced it.

                “…by many Filipinos” Wait, what? By many Filipinos? Seems shocking? No. Not at all. Of course for me it’s not because I’m a Filipino and I know our values. Filipinos are known all over the world as kind and hospitable people especially to the foreigners.

Yes it is true that we are known to be hospitable. In fact, it is one of the taglines used in a campaign for Tourism. But one nature of the Filipinos is to gossip around. If you’re new to our country and you strongly believe that we are hospitable and kind, then you will be surprised to know the negative side of some Filipinos because what you’re expecting is like a fantasy and far from reality; also turned out to be distracting. And that’s the unexpected truth behind the “hospitable Filipinos”.

                “Sometimes they gossip about you and when they gossip, they laugh at you… the way you don’t expect them to laugh.”

                “And you know, sometimes when they laugh at you, you find meanings why they laugh… the way they look at you and say something in a language which you don’t understand.”

It’s really hard to be a tourist in a foreign country because one barrier that will keep you away from the people is the language. What more if you will live in that country. You will have to deal with different people and for you to be one of them, you have to learn their language for you to understand them.

                “And number two, you know, in this world everybody have their own particular smell. And for me, some Filipinos smell but I don’t tell them they stink because I know it’s not good.”

                “Sometimes you feel like crying”

                “Nobody knows you… but you can’t do anything, you can’t say anything. You just have to keep quiet and watch them”

                “…but I’m used to that”

Four years is a long time for her to live like that in the Philippines. She is used to that situation. She confessed that at first, she felt angry but then she realized that it will not make the situation better. Every time that it happens again, she just laughs at it for her to make friends and be one of them. For her to cope up, she said that she just cried. She spent time alone with nobody, because she has no friends and no family here. She also believes that she is independent now that’s why she needs to be stronger.

Now, she is a graduating student of Centro Escolar University with a degree in Business Management and a notable Varsity player in Women’s Basketball.

I didn’t write this to ruin the identity of Filipinos. I wrote this because I want to open your minds to all the possibilities in life—that what we have always known is not what we’ll always see. This is just one of the racism issues in the world. We are not the only ones who did this; there are also other people from other countries who treat foreigners or natives harshly.

Treating black men like they’re made of trash isn’t moral. We shouldn’t demean what blacks can do because most of them are better than any of us. Seems unbelievable? Well here’s my proof: most of the successful and well-known artists (showbiz or music industry) are blacks. When it comes to music industry, blacks have amazing talents that make us turn into the beat and some of them are:

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While in the world of TV and Movies, blacks also proved that they have a place at the top like:

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Tyra Banks

Still not enough? Well, here’s another person to prove you that blacks can’t be insulted. She’s just the most influential woman in the world according to different Media Agencies in US. She’s none other than…

Oprah Winfrey

And hitting the list is the most powerful man in America—the President—Barrack Obama.

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And why do people discriminate others?—for some, to put themselves up; while others do it just for fun. By doing so, it doesn’t make them any better. Making others feel bad doesn’t make us cool, it just makes us worst. We don’t have the right to label others with nasty and offending names. We don’t have the right to treat them differently because in the first place, we are all the same.

“The piano keys are black and white but they sound like a million colors in your mind”
― Maria Cristina MenaThe Collected Stories of Maria Cristina Mena